Friday, March 05, 2004
wait to dateÂ
i spent three hours writing this thingie. try reading it, if you dare. (it's a bit wordy, for a speech!)
Waiting for Mr. Right? Perhaps you ought to wait a while more. All the downsides of dating during the teenage years are cliches waiting to happen. Your parents are kept in the dark of your relationship, because you aren’t interested in hearing them drone in the background, demanding that you get off the phone with your darling and get cracking on your homework. Can you identify with that frightfully familiar scenario?
While researching on this topic for secular information, 80% of the search results were on teen dating violence. That may not be a prominent cause for concern in this country, but surely that should ring alarm bells in your head? What would you do if you were going out with a paranoid manic manipulator? There’s no denying that many teenagers are at that age when their hormones are in overdrive. The fine line between lust and love is all but a blur, in which they tend to assume that they are in love, when in actual fact, would be appalled at spending the rest of their lives with the person they are currently going out with.
Another big problem with going out during the adolescent years are the academic consequences. I have friends, who began dating and found themselves having to face their disgruntled parents with their plunging grades and a good explanation. Why not focus on one thing at a time, instead of throwing yourself into the deep end, as if you were an adult? Us girls take joy in knowing that boys mature much slower than us. With their incapabilities of handling a relationship and schoolwork at the same time, the outcome of the relationship would be a disastrous one, affecting you, your boyfriend, and your parents.
Granted, humans have a longing for companionship, but why else would you still be living under the same roof with your protective parents, if not for their love and support? Is it that urgent a need to attain that same amount of attention, or more, from someone of the opposite sex? Parental approval ought to play a big role in your life at this tumultous age. Few parents would give the go-ahead of a relationship at this point.
We have the privilege to enjoy our life right now, while we still have the liberty to do so. Why be held back by constant self-consciousness and worries of how you behave without your boyfriend frowning, when you can let loose and have the time of your life? It is not just a matter of being tied down at such an early age, but also the basic fact that you will be wasting time over heartbreak if you discover your darling really isn’t The One, which can lead to subjecting yourself to chronic depression?
Another underlying fact is that majority, if not all of us, are Christians. What do you think God wants for you? To be happy, to honour your parents, and to stay true to what you stand for - your morals, values, and principles. It would never be His desire for us to be led into temptation.
Now that you have heard what I have to say, think about it carefully. Mr. Right might just be around the corner... but please be a little more patient before diving into the deep unknowns of dating.
i will let my fingers rest in peace now. nothing happened in dreary school today, and dinner is almost ready! bye bye!
written by Ruth Leanne the Great at 3/05/2004 07:10:00 PM
Waiting for Mr. Right? Perhaps you ought to wait a while more. All the downsides of dating during the teenage years are cliches waiting to happen. Your parents are kept in the dark of your relationship, because you aren’t interested in hearing them drone in the background, demanding that you get off the phone with your darling and get cracking on your homework. Can you identify with that frightfully familiar scenario?
While researching on this topic for secular information, 80% of the search results were on teen dating violence. That may not be a prominent cause for concern in this country, but surely that should ring alarm bells in your head? What would you do if you were going out with a paranoid manic manipulator? There’s no denying that many teenagers are at that age when their hormones are in overdrive. The fine line between lust and love is all but a blur, in which they tend to assume that they are in love, when in actual fact, would be appalled at spending the rest of their lives with the person they are currently going out with.
Another big problem with going out during the adolescent years are the academic consequences. I have friends, who began dating and found themselves having to face their disgruntled parents with their plunging grades and a good explanation. Why not focus on one thing at a time, instead of throwing yourself into the deep end, as if you were an adult? Us girls take joy in knowing that boys mature much slower than us. With their incapabilities of handling a relationship and schoolwork at the same time, the outcome of the relationship would be a disastrous one, affecting you, your boyfriend, and your parents.
Granted, humans have a longing for companionship, but why else would you still be living under the same roof with your protective parents, if not for their love and support? Is it that urgent a need to attain that same amount of attention, or more, from someone of the opposite sex? Parental approval ought to play a big role in your life at this tumultous age. Few parents would give the go-ahead of a relationship at this point.
We have the privilege to enjoy our life right now, while we still have the liberty to do so. Why be held back by constant self-consciousness and worries of how you behave without your boyfriend frowning, when you can let loose and have the time of your life? It is not just a matter of being tied down at such an early age, but also the basic fact that you will be wasting time over heartbreak if you discover your darling really isn’t The One, which can lead to subjecting yourself to chronic depression?
Another underlying fact is that majority, if not all of us, are Christians. What do you think God wants for you? To be happy, to honour your parents, and to stay true to what you stand for - your morals, values, and principles. It would never be His desire for us to be led into temptation.
Now that you have heard what I have to say, think about it carefully. Mr. Right might just be around the corner... but please be a little more patient before diving into the deep unknowns of dating.
i will let my fingers rest in peace now. nothing happened in dreary school today, and dinner is almost ready! bye bye!
written by Ruth Leanne the Great at 3/05/2004 07:10:00 PM
